Mommy Rant

To the mom who thinks she's not good enough or wants the grass that's greener on the other side:
*cough cough* me.

Stop.

Stop reading the blogs and the opinions of others. Hide them from your newsfeed. You can tell from the title if you will be encouraged or not. All these words are tearing you down inside, and making you feel like the worst mother in the world.

Stop comparing your world and life to someone else whose world is displayed perfectly on social media. I'm guilty. Why the facade? Because I don't want my "friends" to know I don't have it together 24/7...So why do I assume my friends do as well? If they do, bravo! I'm happy for you. Seriously. Life is hard and can suck sometimes, and when I have it all together, I hope others are happy for me as well.

I'm tired of all the put downs - even the ones that are unintentional. I don't want to read a blog about how you don't have it all together, and you can't make those cute bento box lunches. Do you realize the hurt you can cause to that mother who does make those cute bento box lunches and enjoys making them? I understand you are trying to be "real," but I don't feel the need to include this info in your blog. Even if it's not intended, you are possibly tearing down another mother.

There are ways of being real without including such info. For example: Yesterday I was tired. Very tired. I had a long week with a child running high fever which caused him to miss day care and me to miss work, which caused me to stay up very late catching up on my work. The house got somewhat picked up and chores got somewhat done this week. However, my family has clean clothes on their back, and belly's were full. Necessities were met, and we even had some fun moments walking around our neighborhood chatting with neighbors and swinging in the backyard. Bravo for making it another week! Could I have done better this week? Of course, but I won't tear down those that might of handled this week better than I did.

I don't feel like mom's praise one another for the jobs they are doing. A mother who enjoys making cute bento box lunches for their child should be celebrated! That's awesome that you can do that! It may not be my niche, but I'm not going to complain about it - because really, I'm jealous of your skill.

A mom makes bento lunches.
A mom makes a pb&j and sends encouraging notes for lunch.
A mom packs a lunchable and a cupcake. (because your child's favorite snack is cupcakes)
A mom sends their child with nothing but lunch money.

Bravo!
Bravo to you all for feeding your child for the day. All these actions are viewed the same in my eyes, because they were done in love. Love. You fed your child because you love them. We all express love to our children, in different ways.

Why do we judge each other so much? . . . Is it to make ourselves feel better on the job we are doing?
Why do we compare each other's actions? . . .Is it to put ourselves above others?
Why do we compare our lives? . . . Is it to justify the choices we made for ourselves?

To the stay at home mom,
To the working mom,
To the mom who got a babysitter for a couple of hours so that she could drink a cup of her favorite coffee in peace,
To the mom who has it all together,
To the mom who makes it day by day,
To the mom who loves her child with all her heart,
Bravo!
Bravo.

Peace, Love, Choosing to praise mom's,

-Miche